How To Tell A Woman That You Like Her
>>>THIS WEEK'S QUESTION about how to tell a
women that you like her:
I have recently started to like this girl
a lot.
We hang out almost everyday, and everybody that
is
around us say that we act like we are going out.
We flirt all of the time, but i dont want to be
the one that admits that i like her first.
I have
also become really good friends with one of her
friends and she told her friend that she likes
me
and everything, but she hasn't really had too
much
experience in dating.
She is one of the nicest girls in the world and
she is very pretty so I dont really
understand
why. I really want to tell her that i like her,
but i have read your book and you always seem to
push getting the girl to admit it to you first.
I
think she may be too shy to do this though.
Would
it be ok to admit it to her first in this
situation? I know you probably think hanging out
with her everyday seems needy, but she is the
one
that calls me everyday and it is very hard to
turn
her down. Any suggestions would be greatly
apreciated. Thanks.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice.
Well, today is your lucky day... for today I'm
going to give you advice that will probably be
PRICELESS to you.
First, let me start with some ranting, raving,
and confusing double-talk, then we'll get to the
good stuff.
I'll begin by verbally abusing you for not
paying attention to what I say, then drift into
a
little bit of talk about exactly what to do in
your situation.
I hope you can tell I'm in a fun mood...
THE VERBAL ABUSE:
It's annoying when I go through all the trouble
to explain a concept in detail... and try 100
ways
to say it in my newsletters, eBook, etc. and
then
someone JUST DOESN'T GET IT.
In your email you say:
"I really want to tell the women that I like her,
but i
have read your book and you always seem to push
getting the girl to admit it to you first."
Now, what I'm about to say might sound a little
bit "trivial" to you. You might call it
"semantics", like the smart people do.
But, pay attention.
CLOSE attention.
I do not recommend that you get a woman to
admit that she likes you FIRST.
Getting a woman to admit that she likes you
"first" naturally implies that you "admit it"
BACK.
And I DO NOT say, "admit it back" OR "admit it
later" OR anything else of the sort.
Why is this so important?
Simple, really.
I personally believe that TELLING a woman that
you "like her" is one of the WORST things you
can
do.
If you want a woman to know that you like her,
the best way is to have her FIGURE IT OUT by the
fact that you guys are getting PHYSICALLY
INVOLVED.
Let me confuse the issue further...
"Telling her" that you like her and "feeling
like you really want to tell her" are two
completely different issues, and they're BOTH
bad... but for different reasons.
TELLING her is bad because it takes the MAGIC,
the SUSPENSE, the MYSTERY, and the SEXUAL
TENSION
out of the situation.
It pops the balloon.
It kills the chemistry.
FEELING like you want to tell her and then
asking about HOW to tell her is bad because it
shows that you're not GETTING IT.
ANOTHER TANGENT
All right, so let's go off on tangent #2...
You mentioned in your email that this girl
you're seeing is inexperienced in the dating
world.
If she's REALLY inexperienced, then you might
be in big trouble.
See, she might be falling IN LOVE with you.
All of this seeing her every day business but
not taking things to the next level (and feeling
like you want to tell her how you feel really
really really badly) might be setting her up
emotionally for a late-night drive to Vegas and
marriage vows at the Drive Thru with Elvis.
If a woman is inexperienced, then it's very
important that you NOT screw this up. If you do,
it might be bad.
Another thought: When you're with an
inexperienced woman, it's sometimes a good idea
to
"dial down" the ball-busting and the Cocky &
Funny
a little bit.
Instead of having it turned up to a 9.5, dial
it back to a 5.79235 setting. That will probably
work better for you and her.
WHAT TO DO
So, let's talk a bit about ATTRACTION.
It happens for reasons that are difficult to
explain to a person who has a "bad model" of how
it works.
But, let's just say that if it DOES happen, you
want to AMPLIFY it. You don't want to WEAKEN it.
One of the problems with "telling her how you
feel" is that it instantly changes the dynamics
of
the situation.
When you say, "I like you" - in her head the
woman hears:
"He is admitting to me that he likes me, which
gives me all the power, which, for some strange
reason, makes me not like him as much anymore."
I realize that this sounds crazy, and doesn't
make a whole lot of "logical sense", but it's
what
usually happens.
It has a lot to do with the fact that when most
guys say, "I like you" they sound like needy
kittens that just want to cuddle and suckle the
bosom of mommy... which isn't exactly
"attraction
creating" stuff.
If you want to "tell" a woman that you "like
her", the best way to do it is to ADVANCE
PHYSICALLY.
In other words, TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
DO something, don't SAY something.
Words are to be used when ACTIONS don't work
better.
And this is NOT one of those cases.
Remember "The Kiss Test" I talk about on my
website?
Use it.
Remember the sequence that I describe in the
bonus booklet that you got with Double Your
Dating
called "Sex Secrets"?
Use it.
But DO NOT "tell her how you feel".
Unless, of course, you want to drive to Vegas.
Finally, let me give you some advice about this
situation of "she calls me everyday to hang out
and I can't turn her down".
TURN HER DOWN.
I know, I know... Powerful.
If you're in love with this girl and want to
marry her, have kids with her, drive your cute
brats to soccer practice in your white minivan,
and wear lots of Dockers clothing, then forget
what I'm telling you.
Who knows, you might have found one of those
rare, wonderful women that so many of us are
looking for.
BUT, if you're just at the stage where it's
time to take things to the next level, then do
it
with your ACTION, not with your WORDS.
Now, if you're reading what I'm telling this
guy and saying, "I really need to learn how to
make women feel attraction for me" - then I have
to agree with you.
You REALLY DO need to learn.
Now...
...if
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Your Friend,
David D.
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2004 Maurice Tate
How To Tell A Woman That You "Like Her
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