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Deepen your experiences in your sex life. Does your partner tell you that you are her best lover ever?

As a sexologist, I talk to many men and women about sex.  One thing that always strikes me is that most couples do not explore the true power of sexuality. Studies have shown that after 2 or 3 years of marriage, the women’s interest in sex drops off about 50%.

In my private practice, I have yet to meet a married woman that is totally happy with the depth she is going in her lover life. I offer tantric massage to some women clients, and in 2 hours she can have the deepest, orgasmic experiences in her life. Many times, just one deep session causes her to make profound changes in her relationships as she gets more into her feminine power.

What are some of the keys for women to go deeper into her amazing erotic energy?  I believe a woman has the potential to be 100 or even 1000 times more sexual than a man. I have experiences women having one-hour orgasms and even having orgasms out of sex just walking down the street.

Men too can have orgasms with no ejaculating and have waves and waves or these orgasms with no loss of energy. When a man can make love for hours and hours and have intense, deep valley orgasms the women just loves you so much. Men can learn to ride the waves of the women’s orgasms for hours too.

What are some keys for women to go deeper? For deep valley orgasmic experiences, I feel a woman has to totally let go and surrender to her self. Unfortunately, most women seem to hold a lot of negative emotions in their body and do not feel safe to totally let go. Many women have had some experience of sexual abuse too. Deep tissue massage and body work is one method that can release these emotions. Something it can take 6 to 20 massage sessions to release these long held emotions. Rebirthing and breath work is another method I use in my private practice. Men too, have similar issues.

Some of these emotions are held in differing parts of the body. One area that many do not massage is surrounding the vulva and also inside the vulva and the g spot. In my private practice many times when touching these areas with presence and love, deep emotions get released. A lot of sadness, crying anger and grief can be released. After these get releases I find the client goes much deeper into her erotic energy.

Man and women that do not make noise during sex I believe block the energy moving in their bodies. Most men make love like they masturbate. They get in an energetic habit of coming too soon, and lack any emotional connection with their lover. The average man comes in 8 minutes in the USA. Most men make no sounds when the energy builds. The energy is in the sounds you make and your partner can feel more of your energy if you let it out.

Learn to let go more and make sounds are two keys to going deeper in your sexuality.

I have had some wonderful experinces over the last 6 months doing tantra massage on clients. Some have had deep orgasmic experinces, deeper than they have ever experieced. Some have transformed their relationsip after one or two sessions. By combining breathing, touch and genital touch one can explore how much pleasure one can feel in the body and release long held blocks. Tantra massage is a powerful healing tool for those open to this profound work.

To start the tantra yoni massage do some deep pressing at points that hold a lot of tension and ask your partner to breathe as this releases the tension. The upper bum area and lower back and the area in the back behind the heart and shoulders and neck are common stress areas. It is important to get feedback when using deep pressure.

After the deep massage, do so some relaxing strokes on your partner’s back, legs, and feet. Ask him or her turn over. Massage the front of the body with strokes over the arms, legs and neck. Brush the genitals, and yoni when going up the legs to tease and awaken the sexual energy.

If you are tantra massaging a women then spend some time massaging the breasts and nipples. Ask her what she likes in this area as some women do not like their nipples massaged. Place one hand on the heart area and hold the vulva with the other hand and hold for a moment. The heat of your hand will energize the vulva.

Ask for permission to go further in the vulva and yoni tantrta massage and look into your partners eyes when asking this.

If you are tantra massaging a man, some penis massage strokes work better in a softer penis. Tell your partner that he does not need an erection to enjoy a erotic massage. If you feel he is close to coming, tell him to breath deeply and relax.

Massaging the g spot in a women can lead to intense full body orgasms so spend a lot of time in this area and on the yoni. The more the women can relax and let go the deeper the tantra experience. Ask her to make sounds and really relax.

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Place one hand on her head and one on her back for a few moments to connect the energies. Then start a sensual massage with long strokes and very light touch to start.

Using silk, feathers and fur is very nice at this stage of the erotic massage. Use long strokes from the legs over the genitals and up to the chest and face. Fur touching the face can feel great.

It is good to be rhythmic yet sensitive in your strokes and use long gliding strokes to some deep ones. Take care of body when giving a massage and bend from the legs rather than bending over your partner.

Nowturn your attention of the vulva and labia.

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The first step in giving an erotic massage is to make a connection with your partner. try some simple yoga exercises facing each other and also use good eye contact and some synchronized breathing. One can be together in the breathe or try alternate breathing. In this, the man breathes out when the women breathes in etc.

It is best to use a massage table for erotic massage. One needs to be comfortable giving a erotic massage and the massage should last one hour or more. If you are not comfortable you will not want to give a love massage. The next step is to do a full body relaxing massage. Ask your partner to lie naked face down on the massage table.

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Vulva massage

How to do a Vulva massage with tips, strokes and techniques. One can have amazing powerful orgasms with Vulva massage.

Vulva massage: Tip One

Massage the whole body to relax and remove blocks for the women to have a deeper energy orgasms. Massage and go deep in the buttocks and above the pubic hair. Most women hold a lot of tension in their bodies and need 10 to 20 deep massages to remove this to allow they to have whole body orgasms.

Vulva massage: Tip Two

Hold one hand on the vulva and one on the heart area and hold for a minute. Ask the woman to breath into the belly and totally relax and let go.

Vulva massage: Tip Three

Use plenty of oil on the vulva and use slow strokes up the lips.

Vulva massage: Tip Four

Massagee either side of the clitoris area as this can be very sensitive.

Vulva massage: Tip Five

Massage the g spot area and alternate with massaging the clitoris as she likes it. Massage the anus and the vulva but use care not to spread bacteria into the vulva.

Welcome to my blog on erotic, sensual and sexuality. If you are interested in improving your sex life you will find lots of tips about foreplay and how to improve your self confidence.

Here are some erotic massage tips on a women.
Tug On Pubic Hair (to wake up sensation).

Over Eggs Easy.  Rub palms together in spirals to generate heat. Lay palms over her ovary area. This generates much ching chi (sexual energy).

The Womb Warmer.  Spiral palms over her uterus area.

Knocking On The G-Spot’s (Heaven’s) Back Door. Press and dig fingers into the belly/bladder just above the pubic bone. You can probe really deeply unless the woman is in her bleeding time. Let her feedback guide you.

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Waking Up the yoni for massage

The Heart /Pussy yoni Palm Rest.  Rest one hand over her heart, the other over her yoni. Then massage slowly  the channel in between and take 3 breaths together.

Vibrate the yoni.  Place your whole hand over her vulva and yoni and vibrate. Vibrate her heart center with your
other hand.

Blow your Breath from yoni and pubs to heart.

Tug On Pubic Hair on the yoni to wake up sensations.

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Part One of an Erotic yoni massage for women

Make sure the room is warm and warmly lit.  Ingredients: A massage table, massage oil, lubricant, items which stimulate the senses (feathers, bells, rattles, essential oils), latex gloves, towels, a vibrator (perhaps covered with a condom, if necessary). Let the woman receiving massage choose the music.
The woman receiving should feel free to have all the orgasms she wishes but the focus of this massage is not on having orgasms.