Why Anal Sex is Painful for Most Lovers
The 3 Reasons why Anal Sex can be Painful
1) Most people have some shame around the anus from toilet
One needs to relax the
anus for this area to be fun and erotic.
Many people, in just their daily lives, hold so
much stress in their bodies, let alone stop for a
moment to relax enough and enjoy a fulfilling sex
If anal sex is what you want then the first thing
you need to do is relax about the whole thing.
Anal sex is not dirty, weird, or only something
freaks do! Its a very erotic form of sexual
activity that can literally blow your mind if it
is approached in a relaxed and sensuous way.
Search out different resources regarding anal sex
(leave the porn sites for when youre a pro
I am talking helpful resources), find out
about that part of your body, take your time and
2) You have to use LUBE! The ass is naturally a
very dry area to be inserting anything into it.
Never try anal sex relying on saliva or worse
nothing at all to help. Use a water-based
lubricant and use lots of it.
And if you are having anal sex with someone you
are not that familiar (HIV is easily transmitted
with unprotected sex.) with use a condom but do
not use one with spermicide as that will irritate
3) Start Small! Dont rush into anal sex.
Start with small dildos and vibrators and again
use lots of lube.
Relax and lube up your ass and slowly insert a
small vibrator. Breathe deep and let go of all
tension in your body focusing on your anal region.
Let all thoughts of this being taboo and enjoy.
As you become more comfortable move up in size
and toys. There are all sizes of vibrators,
dildos, anal beads, anal plugs, and of course,
your partners penis, but take your time and enjoy.
Anal sex can enhance any sexual act and
contribute to wild orgasms!
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